Suddenly Sara

okc-misandry asked: Hi. I just found your blog and wanted to say that the belted navy cardigan you're wearing today is super-cute. Is there any way those are 3/4 sleeves and if so, could you tell me where you got it/who makes it? I really like your personal style. Also, if it's a welcome compliment, I think you look very pretty and feminine in that grey tee. There's a big difference between a scoop neck that flatters your bustline and shows off your collarbones and a higher-necked one.

Oh thank you so much :) I actually get most of my style from my sister, so we actually have her to thank for most of my fashion choices. She keeps me on the right path, and isn’t afraid to tell me “aw hell naw” when I try something that doesn’t flatter me.

The cardigan is actually black - the color on the picture is just messed up a bit because I snapped it with my iPad. They’re not known for their epic cameras. The brand is “Takeout,” and I got it at SEARS in December. I don’t know if you’ll be able to find anything like it or not. Unfortunately, I’ve cut most of the tags out of it. The sleeves end just above the elbow, so I don’t think that counts as 3/4, and it’s not actually belted - it snaps in front and then has a tiny little strap in the front to belt the two sides together.

As for the grey top… *sigh* … I appreciate that others think I looked good in that outfit, and thank you for saying so. Unfortunately, that’s not how dysphoria functions, and unless I could see past all my masculine attributes, I wasn’t going to be able to be happy. Mostly, it’s my face, especially in that picture. Sometimes, I look at my reflection or a picture of me, and all I can see is the old-me. That’s why I had such reservations about the pony tail today - it pulls my hair away from my face and displays my jawline, and that makes me very self-conscious. I still don’t actually like the pony tail, but I’m trying not to get really horribly dysphoric about it like I did last time.